I decided to finally buy these books— The Laws of Human Nature by Robert Greene and Women Who Run with Wolves by Clarissa Estes. I’ve been wanting to buy and read these but figured I wouldn’t immediately need to since I have tons of other books I’m supposed to read.
Boy, was I wrong! Books like these should be required reading in high school and college, and re-read often. Reading the books reminds me why I’m such an (extroverted) introvert, if there is such a person. I’m so thankful to have many friends who are overly concerned of me and watching over me knowing that I’m somehow naive and too trusting of people.
Having led a purposeful life, meaning I’m always thinking that everything has a purpose, I let people into my life with the purpose of helping them. Strangers from all walks of life approach me with their story, problem, and even tell me their love life or lack thereof. You develop with them a trusting relationship of mutual respect and a common purpose.
I have proven that even strangers will protect you. But things don’t always go smoothly. Sometimes you encounter people, some whom you thought were your friends, with less goodwill or unstable mental and emotional health. They will want to hurt you, manipulate you, abuse you, lure you using your interest or cause, then blame you, accuse you for whatever malicious agenda they may have.
But since I easily recover I still have faith in humanity. You can only learn from bad experiences, call on their misdeeds and act that justice is served. The books give wonderful advice on how to spot flawed and toxic people so we can avoid them, and avoid getting sucked in their drama. If already victimized by them, these books can provide insights on how to heal and to recover.
But most importantly, I pray and wish that people someday may learn kindness, empathy, compassion; to respect and to love one another without any condition or expecting payback.
I hope people will see beauty and grace in everyone and not be jealous. I hope that we give and share the blessings we receive to those who need them most. I hope that we strive for harmony, unity, peace, and enlightenment — not for wealth, ambition or status. I hope we extend generosity, humility and compassion so as to be more understanding and accepting of others and to uplift, inspire, and assist them.
Just imagine a world where there is no anger and hatred, greed and jealousy, dishonesty, malice, pride and conceit. If only life is as simple as that. Well, I believe life is for our enjoyment. It is people who makes life so complicated and the world dangerous to live in.
However, it is not in the nature of humans to destroy each other. It is Pride that leads people to arrogance, believing that they are better than others. Thus they become jealous, so much that it consumes them to a life filled with anger and hate.
So my dear reader, may we seek, even if it’s just a glint, of goodness in people who hide behind the mask they wear. Let us help them realize that it is through sincere humility and compassion can we live as one in this world. In short, let’s be nice to each other, shall we?
*Ora et Labora*
New theory of dark personality reveals the 9 traits of the evil people in your life
The 9 traits of malevolence
These are the 9 traits comprising the D-factor, along with the definitions used by the scientists:
1. Egoism: “the excessive concern with one’s own pleasure or advantage at the expense of community well-being.”
2. Machiavellianism: “manipulativeness, callous affect, and a strategic-calculating orientation.”
3. Moral disengagement: “a generalized cognitive orientation to the world that differentiates individuals’ thinking in a way that powerfully affects unethical behavior.”
4. Narcissism: “ego-reinforcement is the all-consuming motive.”
5. Psychological entitlement: “a stable and pervasive sense that one deserves more and is entitled to more than others.”
6. Psychopathy: “deficits in affect (i.e., callousness) and self-control (i.e., impulsivity).”
7. Sadism: “a person who humiliates others, shows a longstanding pattern of cruel or demeaning behavior to others, or intentionally inflicts physical, sexual, or psychological pain or suffering on others in order to assert power and dominance or for pleasure and enjoyment.”
8. Self-interest: “the pursuit of gains in socially valued domains, including material goods, social status, recognition, academic or occupational achievement, and happiness.”
9. Spitefulness: “a preference that would harm another but that would also entail harm to oneself. This harm could be social, financial, physical, or an inconvenience.”
How dark is your personality?
If you’d like to test yourself to see how malevolent you might be, the psychologist Scott Barry Kaufmandevised a short version of the D-factor test in his article for Scientific American. The more you are in agreement with multiple items on this list, the higher your D-factor score is likely to be:
The Dark Core Scale
1. It is hard to get ahead without cutting corners here and there.
2. I like to use clever manipulation to get my way.
3. People who get mistreated have usually done something to bring it on themselves.
4. I know that I am special because everyone keeps telling me so.
5. I honestly feel I’m just more deserving than others.
6. I’ll say anything to get what I want.
7. Hurting people would be exciting.
8. I try to make sure others know about my successes.
9. It is sometimes worth a little suffering on my part to see others receive the punishment they deserve.
Read the article: https://bigthink.com/paul-ratner/new-theory-of-dark-personality-reveals-the-9-traits-of-the-evil-people-in-your-life?utm_medium=Social&facebook=1&utm_source=Facebook&fbclid=IwAR1YY0JMlncVxOyUIacJsIbhQOIzAmyEC_aaD8-6qjaweKF0K4uz1iNUUH8#Echobox=1557729314